‘You are mistaken,’ said he gently, ‘that is not good company, that is the best.’
Jane Austen, Persuasion
We all yearn for connections with interesting and agreeable people. Yes, even we writers — as a rule happy in when alone, among our books and wandering barefoot through the Internet — love to laugh and talk. Most people I’ve met when from time to time I’ve stepped away from my writing desk are talented at making and keeping friends, because likeable company makes the world go around. And happiness helps the work get done.
And, one of the first things we do to grow our happiness in our writing careers is to search out a few writers who will be your first strength and you theirs. Someone who is farther along the path than you are, and someone who is perhaps closer to the start. Genre matters little. Personality is all.
I love to watch people who sparkle with happiness as they strike up conversations in queues, on the train, in the park. Some writers are talented in making quick connections. Others of us find starting conversations more difficult (although it’s worth practicing—you don’t want to stand tongue tied around strangers at your own book launches) but are brilliant at forging few but excellent friendships that last decades or a lifetime. If you can find a way to cherish both, I’ll bet you’re a happy person.
I hope you’ll have another brilliant writing day today. Cheers Mel